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[quote=Anonymous]That was me. And it was rarely if ever a well-meaning 16-year-old boy looking to talk to a girl innocently. I wasn't a supermodel. I was just young enough and with big enough boobs to attract a dude with underaged predilections. And we all know the difference between a dude being creepy and a dude striking up an actual conversation.

Once at the mall in 1988, two dudes followed me around and eventually one approached me. I was with my mom the entire time. I was so uncomfortable. After she said that I was 11, the dude who approached me responded along the lines of "Even better then."

Once in the 7th grade, we were doing a combined high school/middle school recycling thing. A forking senior kept touching my breasts every chance he got. Sorting cardboard for recycling and he just kept leaning over and groping me. I was so embarrassed. After my best friend's mom spoke up to the school about it, because she witnessed it, they explained that he thought I was okay with it because I was wearing a turtle neck. That dude knew I was in middle school.

In probably the 9th-ish grade, a group of college guys wouldn't let me alone at a county fair until that same friend's mom stepped in. Again, not a supermodel, just bait for creeps. I was obviously with a group of young girls; there was no excuse that I was somehow their what, babysitter? Come on.

Screw being polite, your daughter can be as direct as she wants to be. It's not 1988 anymore, dudes cannot get away with being creepy, and your daughter cannot control what she looks like. Just say no, and have a plan if the dude doesn't listen. It's hard to say no, so keep practicing it.

And I have a middle-aged son. He saw kinda creepy behavior related to a 5th-grade dance (a boy asking out a girl repeatedly until she said yes), and we talked at length about not being a creep, listening and paying attention to what the other person is saying, and that one no is all you get. You talk to girls like they are also humans, you don't leer, bother them, pick at them until they give in...[/quote]

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