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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG, these posters are insane.

OP, you yourself say that these arguments are about splitting hairs, that both of your approaches would work, and that your family is in a situation where you will have plenty of money for retirement/etc.

Given all of those factors, you should ABSOLUTELY stop bickering with your husband about the minutia that differs in your approaches. Accept that he is good at finances, be grateful that you don't need to be in control of it, and let it go.

(This, of course, presumes all the healthy conditions that you laid out in your post in terms of good partnership, his financial decision-making acuity, etc.)

Even if you are completely right and your choices would yield a marginally better outcome, the ongoing and persistent conflict you describe is absolutely not worth an extra 2% or whatever in your net worth at the end of the day.[/quote]

This is spot on.  I'll add one more point:

OP, you said in your initial post, "We do each give each other freedom about individual retirement accounts."  I suggest you rethink that approach.,  I realize it was to preserve some marital harmony, but it sounds like you and your husband have consolidated finances.  Retirement planning should take into account all funds allocated for retirement, and there should be one strategy for all your retirement funds.  It doesn't really matter whether it's yours or your husband's - one strategy is better than two divergent or contradictory strategies.  Ideally, it would be the same person as managed your other assets, but in the interest of harmony maybe you could split up retirement and non-retirement assets, with periodic consultations with each other.  [/quote]

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