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[quote=Anonymous]If you are a contractor and your work has dried up, have you looked for a steady job that, even if you are only making $60K, at least gives you upward mobility, health benefits, 401K? I have this discussion with my contractor husband all the time. He thinks he's making way more on his own than he would at a company. I think he's basing the salary he thinks he would pull in on the salaries when we left his last FT job 15 years ago. And he is also not factoring in the money that he is leaving on the table for benefits that he's not receiving--it sucks as the spouse who makes a decent salary to watch so much taken out of it for healthcare, dependent care, etc. because your spouse can't take advantage of those benefits. Not to mention the fact that any retirement savings for him comes out of our pocket--no one is matching it.

But even given all of that, what I resent the most is that I feel stuck in my job options because of his situation. I always have to look for jobs with good (even if expensive) health benefits because that's our only option. He works at home and is his own boss so he has a ton of freedom to go golfing in the middle of the day or pick up the kids from school or whatever. Meanwhile, I'm stuck commuting an hour each way and dealing with traffic. And this resentment will only grow as you have kids, trust me.

So, yeah. I'm with your wife on this one. You need to figure this out.[/quote]

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