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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a high school senior with ADHD and depression, who wants to go to college to have a social life, and I worry so much this will be her.

I'm so sorry OP, for the worry this is causing you.

I've been running scenarios in my mind, and who knows maybe my kid will keep it together.  Do you bring her home give her no money and have her work?  Enroll in community college?

I don't know.  I wish you good luck.  [/quote]

OP here- I'm convinced she would have failed no matter what, but in hindsight, I would have (or next time will):
- had her waive all FERPA rights and give us full access to her grades, etc.  that way I could have seen real-time when she started falling off a cliff, so we could intervene.
- got her set up with a tutor/Exec Function coach there who helped her stay on track weekly, complete assignments, etc
- watched her location and called her to tell her to get her as* to class when she was still in her dorm room
Although I now know she's never going to mature until she takes accountability and responsibility. 
[/quote]

If you still need to do ALL of the above, then your kid is NOT ready for 4 year college/living on campus.  Bring her home.  Get her ADHD and depression under control. Have her get a job and attend CC (I'd start with PT and keep a job).  Then get an EF coach/life skills tutoring to help her learn to manage the ADHD and depression in real life.

But IMO if you have to call your kid to tell them to get their ass to class, they are not ready for a 4 year/living on campus situation.  Let them mature a bit before wasting your money.  It's very common with ADHD to be "immature", add in depression and college can be a bit much to manage[/quote]

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