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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Move her near you. That drive will be a nightmare.  My MIL was a 25-50 drive depending on traffic and it was hard to do more than 1-2 times a week.  And, move her while she still has her mind (even a little bit and will be ok in a car)[/quote]

She is adamant that she does not want to move.[/quote]

That’s fine but you need to tell her the consequences of her decision.  You will not be there as often as she would like.  You will not be able to make your presence known to the staff.  If there is an issue, you will get there when you can but it might be a few days.

One thing I’m finding challenging is dr appts.  Perhaps the facility your parent is in takes them but the one my dad is in does not.  I kid you not, a drs appt is a 4-5 hr endeavor.  It takes 30-45 min to get him ready to get out the door even if he’s dressed already.  It’s stuff like getting paperwork from the facility to give to the dr, switching his oxygen to portable, finding a wheelchair.  Doesn’t matter if I tell the staff what time I will be there, no one seems to find the things he needs to go on an outing until I get there.

Then getting in the car takes 10 min.  He just doesn’t move fast.  He can’t buckle the seatbelt.  I have to put the wheelchair in the car.  Then we drive to the appt and have to unload him.  Then we wait because the drs office never run on time.  Now he has to pee.  Then while we’re out he’d like lunch.  It just seems it’s one additional step after another.

My dad is 5 min from me.  I can’t imagine adding a 1.5hr commute on either end of this excursion.  [/quote]

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