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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of people use boundaries to mean "I should never have to do, or see, or hear, anything I don't like.  If people don't act the way I want them to all the time, it's not merely part of life or annoying, it's offensive or toxic.  Relationships should require no work or compromise on my part, and even asking me something i dont want to do or share is wrong and hurtful"  There are people who genuinely need to set boundaries for themselves so that they don't do too much or accept mistreatment, but the term has been stripped of any useful meaning by overuse and misuse.   [/quote]

Yes. This is what I feel like my sister is doing. I can't be perfect, but she expects me to be perfect and if I'm not she "sets a boundary" that she doesn't want to be near me. She doesn't talk it through with me or act like our relationship is important. That's what I'm struggling with. It is important to set boundaries and not continue to be abused by people but I am not abusive. Relationships can take compromise and negotiation and even just adjustment and not be abusive. It takes communication and maybe even work and that's OK![/quote]

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