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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I was posting about the MIL and mother have a hard time accepting adult child and their spouse. From a Grandma’s perspective I think it comes down to accepting that their adult children no longer need them. Plus, it is not the same world we raised fl our children in.
I find mothers of sons have more problems letting go. It’s a my son, my son situation. No one is good enough for their son. I was hoping this forum would be a good place to talk about elder perspectives. [/quote]

Except you have trouble accepting that others have different experiences. I have a good relationship with my in-laws, and a fragile one with my own mother. My best friend gets on well with her MIL, and had a difficult time with her FIL. Even my friends who complain about their MILs do have a courteous relationship with them.

So... as so often happens, OP, you seem to believe that online complaints are an accurate reflection of real life. They're not. It's mostly the complainers who post. The happy ones don't.

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How nice that you have a good relationship. Bravo

But this post is about the grandparents or parents of adult children. It is not about the adult child’s perspective. It is a topic talked about in my circle(grandparents). We vent to each other because we will do anything and everything to keep our adult kids happy and avoid family drama. If you follow DCUM on a regular basis you will see there is a lot of vitriol toward grandparents/grandparents. You have the power to keep our grandkids away from us. We are acutely aware of this and know grandparents who have been cut off. That would destroy us and we know it and work to keep you happy. The fact is we often don’t feel respected and know it’s not intended, just unaware. Your response is all about you. This proves my point. 
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