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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same here.  I'm somewhat introverted, and I have 2 very extroverted young DDs.  They LOVE to talk, and they thrive on constant activity and being on-the-go.  I also work full-time, and my situation at work has become very demanding and high-stress over the past 6 months.  DH is extremely introverted and prefers to be left completely alone, so 90% of kid/house stuff falls to me.  I'm mentally exhausted and would give just about anything for a weekend away to reset, but I can't even seem to manage an afternoon.  My parents visited for Christmas and occupied the girls for 2 hours while I ran some last-minute errands, and it was bliss to be alone in the car just running from store to store.
I love my girls more than anything, and [b]I feel so guilty about craving time to myself before I burn out[/b].
DH used to take our older DD out for a few hours every other weekend or so, to the playground or something similar, but he stopped doing that once our younger DD was born.  I remember loving the time and peace to curl up on the couch with a good book.[/quote]

Seriously? Why? Where is the guilt coming from?[/quote]

PP.  I feel guilty because I'm the only parent that actively engages with the kids, and both of them thrive off of engagement.  If DH is left in charge, 9 times out of 10 he entertains himself by watching videos on his phone and handing the girls an iPad the entire time I'm away.  Between work and his online gaming habit, he's in front of screens all day, and he doesn't see a problem with the kids doing the same.  I'm certainly not anti-screen, but he seems to have developed a complete lack of ability to actually do anything with them that doesn't involve parking them in front of a screen. 
So then I return, and both girls practically beg me to fix them dinner/snack, play a board game, read a book, take them outside, etc...because he is completely disengaged, although physically present.  Older DD (7yo) has repeatedly told me that she doesn't like it when I leave, because DH won't interact with them at all.[/quote]

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