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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you all, for talking me down. The information just really threw me for a loop and I couldn't find my way towards processing it. I appreciate all your perspectives. [/quote]

OP, I'm glad you're talked down now! I was going to ask how many years post-college you are, because the farther out you are from college/grad school, the less and less the college reputation/degree etc. matter, in terms of dating, to me. Kind of like how when people first are dating post-college, there's sometimes more comparison of "where did you go, what was your major" etc., but as time goes on that simply recedes into the background.

As others note: There are many kinds of smarts. Don't denigrate or underestimate your own. Also don't overemphasize the impressiveness of his college or his degree field. Both are great, absolutely, but that does not somehow make your own college or field "less than."

And there's a good, old saying to remember: "Comparison is the thief of joy." Stop comparing yourself to him or your degree to his etc. It will blind you to the ways in which you might compliment each others' strengths and balance out each others' weaknesses. [/quote]

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