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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband does this to a much lesser extent. He does have mild, late-in-life ADHD diagnosis and gets anxious in social situations - he’s awkward and shy with new people, and when he’s in a social situation with old friends he just sort of loses his filter because he’s so excited to be among friends.

The interrupting at home I have gotten really serious about because it hurt/annoyed me so much. I’ve started naming it most times. “You just cut me off” “I wasn’t finished talking”. He also turns every single discomfort back about himself, reflexively. If I say “I didn’t sleep well,” before it is fully out of my mouth he’ll say “yeah, I slept terribly and I’m tired”. If I say “I don’t feel well at all, I am getting a cold” he’ll say “I have a headache too.” We’ve talked about it, he’s sorry, he understands why I hate it. He is often lost in his own head, though, and words come out of his mouth before he has thought about them.[/quote]

My DH with ADHD also does this as does our oldest (20) with ADHD. Like OP's DH, they also struggle with volume.

My DH and I actully addressed it in counseling before marriage and before his ADHD diagnosis. I started out using the 'one word' reminder to point out when he was interrupting or turning things back to himself. It hasn't always been easy but I do know, intellectually at least, that he doesn't do it with negative intent but because he's caught up in his head. I've also done it with DS so, hopefully, he's more mindful of it. I think DH seeing the behavior in DS really brought home to him what he was doing and the impact on relationships.

As far as volume, hoo boy, it's absolutely and ADHD thing with them. They lose awareness of volume, especially if they're really engaged in talking. We use hand signals to bring it to their attention. In ES, the teachers did it with DS as well.  :lol:

All of this has worked for us because DH and DS are willing to accept the feedback. If your loved one does/won't recognize the impact of their behavior and work with you, well, you have bigger problems. [/quote]

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