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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the PP who waited 10 years, had one, and is totally happy. I don't agree AT ALL with the advice to spend time with other people's kids. I rather dislike other people's kids, always have, still do. It was one of the big reasons that we thought for so long we wouldn't have children at all. I've mellowed a bit in that regard now that I have a kid of my own, but I'm still not a kid person.

[b]Also, the "if you like your life now" advice is kind of off target. What, people who DON'T like their lives should have a baby, see if that fixes it? No. You should go in to parenthood from a position of confidence and flexibility. I will say to examine your marriage beforehand. A strong, equal marriage makes parenthood [i]fun[/i]. 
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What I meant is that I knew I wanted kids after I had done everything I wanted to do for myself.  I spent my 20s getting my undergrad and grad degrees and lived and traveled abroad.  I felt like I was at a turning point at the end of my 20s.  I was ready to give my life to a child and stop living my life for myself.  If the OP is content with the way things are and has no desire to make changes to her life, she shouldn't have kids.  You go from 100% all about yourself to 100% NOT about yourself.  I am an introvert and a single mom who has my child 24/7 and I get cranky fairly frequently b/c the 20 mins I get alone each day during the workweek (10 mins from daycare to work and back) are really not enough.  [/quote]

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