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[quote=Anonymous]What you are doing is very generous. Tell sibling 3 to handle it themselves or offer to pay for a summer camp or put a bit into 529s if you want, but what if your financial situation changes?  You aren’t a bank.  You are helping one kid who needs it because their parents (s) are struggling and don’t want that child to be impacted.  Why isn’t any other sibling stepping up other than you?

Things change.  What you are doing is generous.  My parents both died and I ended up moving in with a single family member (no spouse no kids) who worked a lot but couldn’t really afford certain things so we had a family member who paid for my private tuition (bad public schools).  I am so very grateful for it and have paid it back in ways I can now I am an adult.  None of my other wealthier aunts or uncles with families would take me in or helped at all!

I remember my entire childhood being very aware of money and didn’t ask to go on field trips or do extras due to costs associated with things.  I also worked and very much appreciated attending private school where I thrived.   Now I had a couple other more well off relatives who expected the same for their kids.  Luckily the person who paid for my tuition told them to get lost.  They were able bodied and had excellent jobs and they could sell their big house or not take three vacations to Europe each year with their multiple kids. People got over it.

We all make choices and no one is entitled to anyone else’s money.  You decide what you’re comfortable with and communicate it with sibling.  You are also allowed to change what you are comfortable with too.  [/quote]

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