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[quote=Anonymous]No facility will be perfect. And the whole industry has a bad reputation - deservedly. But OP I'll just offer a counterweight to your hesitation about the move. My dad had early stage Alzheimers when we moved him to a continuing care community. He was originally very opposed to leaving his home, and we had found decent help to keep him there. But once he moved, he was SO much happier because he was a super social guy and he finally had people to talk to all day long! And I think it was a huge relief to have everything provided to him at a time when doing the tasks he'd done every day of his adult life, like making coffee, had become increasingly difficult for him to manage on his own. In retrospect I realize he must have been frightened at some level living alone and experiencing confusion.

People with dementia can live a long time. My dad did not want to extend his life through heroic measures, but for his last few years, he could not eat solid food or take care of his basic needs. Managing that in his home or his kids' homes was essentially impossible. Because we moved him when he was still fairly aware and competent, it was a lot easier than trying to figure things out in a crisis. And because he moved in when he was still capable of engaging with others, he had built friendships that continued even after his condition worsened. When I look back on those years, I only wish we had moved him out of his house sooner. YMMV obviously but I think it's important for people to realize that there are upsides to nursing/memory care and assisted living. [/quote]

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