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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here:  Thanks for the thoughtful responses.  I have been talking to my therapist for years about this problem.  She is all about STOP doing nice things for her and not to let her treat me poorly.  My daughter tells me I give her anxiety when I approach the subject.  She is coming home later this month and I am honestly don't want to be around her.  I think my next approach is going to be to tell her I am not responsible for her happiness, nor she mine.  At the same time, I will permit her to treat me poorly.  I have suggested that she get help.....she will not.  It's her journey.
I have to let go of thinking  that I need to suck it up because I don't want to damage our future relationship!
[b]I really thought I was a good parent.....not so much![/b][/quote]OP, don't dwell too much on the past. Be a good parent [i]now[/i] and disengage from your daughter's drama - which [i]may[/i] (and I say "may," not "will") influence her to do some growing up on her own.  The other pps are right. You don't have to explain anything or convince her you're right.  Just figure out where your limits are and gently but firmly make them clear. You can have a good life and you can open the way for your daughter to have a better life than she has - but letting her manipulate you won't make her life better.

Good luck! I can tell how hard this has been on you.  I hope it gets better!

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