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[quote=Anonymous]I've thought about this topic a lot. Agree with everyone that it can be OCD, problems making decisions and fear of losing control, sentimental feelings and not wanting to deal with memories so leaving it alone.

I'd add that some people overvalue their stuff. They see it as worth money, so if they let it go, they feel like they've lost money they had (sunk costs). Some people see these kinds of losses as much more important others do, so they have a harder time. The person I knew like this was also extremely cheap, in a bad way. She was holding on to everything so as not to lose or spend.

There are potentials in the stuff: hobbies and side-gigs that you were going to do, books to read, clothes to fit into again or wear in some possible new life, etc. Giving these up means giving up these possibilities (also freeing, but not for
 the hoarder).

Feeling responsible for others, keeping and buying stuff for others, saving for future generations because they think there is continuity and want to help; also can be a form of control.

The hoarder I knew had a clean house but had two storage units filled with stuff. Eventually she couldn't pay for it anymore and lost it. She had been keeping this stuff for maybe 20 years.

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