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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Another vote for the nursing home. Getting parents to your home will take a huge toll for many reasons. Plus, very quickly, I believe, they will need more care than you can physically provide. You will either have to bring help in or find a nursing home near you.

[b]As to POA, I would have it established now that you share it with whichever brother gets it.[/b] My sibling and I have POA for our 90s parents. Also, you need Medical Power of Attorney as well--and is almost more important in the high care years.[/quote]

This. With both POA and Medical POA two agents can be named or one of you named primary agent and the second as back up (if the primary steps down as agent).
Also, and I urge you to seriously consider this as time is an issue: no attorney that is honest and of quality will draft these documents for your parents if one of them has dementia or is determined to be not able to understand, and I mean FULLY understand, the paperwork they are signing. An attorney can be disbarred (and should be) if they do. Time is critical here. You need to get that paperwork done stat.

This is a lot OP. Good luck to you and your family.[/quote]

OP here.  Thank you for pointing out this important necessity.  I need to double check their paperwork and ask my brothers if there already are POAs in place (not that I know of).  Dementia care place says they each need a POA before admission.    
2 POA agents would be good for our situation, but I wonder what happens if a disagreement comes up.  
Also- if it's too late for an attorney to draw up documents due to parents cognitive issues, what happens now if there is no POA and no medical POA in place? Who can make decisions for them?  [/quote]

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