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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here is a good column from Carolyn Hax.

"Kids in this process need their parents nearby as much as they need them to go away. Your son is more likely to reach for you if you make it easy for him, emotionally, to do that -- which means not chasing down news of his day, not correcting him constantly, not lamenting (to him) about not being close. At the risk of a four-metaphor pileup, think skittish dog: no crowding and no sudden movements."[/quote]

https://www.oregonlive.com/living/2018/10/carolyn_hax_yes_you_can_get_th.html[/quote]

I feel like this example doesn’t cut it for OP’s situation. In the article the mom in question is married to his father and has two other children. Her son probably feels like she gets plenty of emotional support from his dad.

Meanwhile, OP’s husband left her because he impregnated another woman. Things didn’t work out with wife number two and now he’s on to wife number 3, who daughter thinks is the best because she’s not wife number 2 or mom.

I dunno, I was a teenager once, too. I thought my mom was super annoying, but I would have felt EMPATHY for her if my dad had cheated on her and moved on to another woman. I would be so mad at dad that I doubt I could even look at the third wife. I certainly wouldn’t mind putting on a pair of pjs to make my jilted mom feel happy.

OP’s daughter lacks empathy. She might get better in that department, but she might not. I think the OP needs to put herself first, so that she’s not waiting for daughter to come around.[/quote]

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