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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, it is pretty nutty that I have been trying for 10 years for a connection.  It's the definition of insanity.  It's like I'm hoping for something that just isn't there.  Thinking if I say the right things, or do the right things, it will happen.  I need to just accept her as she is.  And that she has chosen to only have a connection with her dad.  Is that hurtful? Yes.  Am I glad she has a good relationship with her dad?  Yes.

Ugh.  It is just hard.  It's also hard to connect with my husband too.  He is likely on the spectrum like she is.  They both think that I just don't get them.[/quote]

OP, I say this kindly, but I have a child with ASD. Your daughter may or may not have asd, nothing in your post indicates that she does, but it doesn’t matter. Because the problem here is not any nueroatypicality.  The problem is that you care way too damn much about “having a connection.” Your daughter is calling you “stupid”. That is wrong!! She had a half-formed brain so it’s understandable, but why is your concern anything other than your duty to correct her emotional immaturity? She doesn’t need a diagnosis and she doesn’t want a friend in you, OP, she needs a mother! Stop fearing a lack of relationship and the relationship will follow. I promise. [/quote]

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