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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My teen can do whatever. I've made it clear that I will not support a teenage pregnancy. If my daughter gets pregnant all support ends. I can be very spiteful so my daughter knows I'm not bluffing. We haven't had any issues yet. [/quote]

Are you hipolar?[/quote]

I don't think I'm bipolar. There are some things that I have zero flexibility on. My daughter knows all about safe sex etc. However if she chooses to be careless and get pregnant that's on her. Same thing with drugs if she's dumb enough to become a junkie that's on her. I will not participate in any of that. I will offer no help and she'll be on her own. I've been very clear about this. She knows exactly where I stand. [/quote]

I’d love to know how your relationship fares with her in 20 years. My father was like this. We haven’t talked in 25 and he’s never met his grandchild.

He’s in poor health now and his new wife keeps begging for a relationship. But, nah. He knows exactly where insata d, to quote you. [/quote]
You've made a choice not to speak to your father. That's fine. If my daughter decides she doesn't want to speak to me later on in life that's fine. She's gets to make that decision as an adult. 
DCUM continues to promote this idea that in order to have a relationship with your adult children you need to be a permissive parent when they're young. That's simply false. Every parent has a line, I don't associate with adults that don't share my value system, even if that adult is my child. [/quote]

Are you the PP who said "I can be spiteful"?  Are you arguing that treating your minor kids with spite is part of your value system?  Or that not being spiteful is the same as being permissive?[/quote]

No I'm not the same PP. But I sorta understand the point that poster is making. There are certain behaviors that I would not accept from my child. If they decided to engage in said behaviors I would cut ties with them. 
The fact is you can do everything "right" and still end up estranged from your kids. My job as a parent is to do what I think is right and provide guidance for my kids. If my kids choose to separate from me later in life then so be it. I don't lose a lot of sleep over it. [/quote]

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