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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am realizing I have always been my mother and brother’s scapegoat. I didn't recognize this dynamic as a child and told myself they had much more in common. As an adult, it's heightened as my brother who was groomed to be highly successful hasn't lived up to my family’s expectations and has ramped up his cruelty, and a lot of times, it feels like my mom goes along with it to make him feel better. Ironically, I ended up doing better academically and financially as an adult and have some nice kids but [b]it still feels like no matter what I'm still the difficult or crazy one[/b]. 
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This is my experience as the scapegoat. My parents are long gone, but my sisters continue to scapegoat me. The eldest, who was the golden child, is professionally seccessful but can't have healthy relationships. I have a 20 year long happy marriage, but no professional success. I have recently reached a point where I'd rather have no relationship with them than to be treated poorly by them. I can no longer allow myself to be yelled at and shamed by them.[/quote]

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