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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am realizing I have always been my mother and brother’s scapegoat. I didn't recognize this dynamic as a child and told myself they had much more in common. As an adult, it's heightened as my brother who was groomed to be highly successful hasn't lived up to my family’s expectations and has ramped up his cruelty, and a lot of times, it feels like my mom goes along with it to make him feel better. Ironically, I ended up doing better academically and financially as an adult and have some nice kids but it still feels like no matter what I'm still the difficult or crazy one. 
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Is it possible that you are indeed a difficult person and your brother actually got along better with your mother? Its not about who is more successful but about how you make other person feel. No?

Either way, honestly and openly discuss it with them, hear their perspective and then move on. Life is too short to be spent on psychoanalysis of past. If it still bothers you, do seek a good therapist and have boundaries with your mom and brother.[/quote]

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