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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What a jackass. You have permission to rip him a new one. Here’s what you can say:
“Let me clear with you: your behavior the past several days has been reprehensible. I’m 35 weeks pregnant with your child and sick as a dog. The best you can do is give me some coconut water. Your lack of care is not okay. To be clear, you’ll be taking care of your family when they’re here. I’m focused on two things: getting better and growing this baby. What questions might you have?” [/quote]

Yep, this. A good script, and firm, which he needs to hear. He also owes you a freaking apology, OP.

Absolutely add to this script a list of what he will do for you. Not what he CAN do but what he will do. Today. Like all the grocery shopping to feed HIS relatives who are coming. Go from there. If he's fearful you'll get them sick, well, he can make things so you can just quarantine in the bedroom, can't he? Tell him that.

He also must move his workspace out of the bedroom right now. WTF? That would be a MINIMUM of courtesy toward a sick spouse. Tell him it's non-negotiable.

Let his behavior be your warning here, OP. If he is like this toward you now, do you think he'll be much help when your baby/toddler/child is sick, or will he expect you to handle everything AND also get the house ready for, say, holiday visitors? Does he usually act this immature and does he usually lack empathy? When someone is this self-centered and treats their supposed loved one like this, as if you should be up and doing what he expects, it's a warning that he's not going to grow empathy, or learn to think for himself about ways to help. He needs some retraining and fast, before your baby's first real sickness.

I'm furious on your behalf, OP. He might try to blame his lack of concern and lack of action on feeling overwhelmed, the holidays, visitors coming, he's upset blah blah but...a decent guy who actually thinks about others' needs shouldn't try to excuse this level of jerkishness.[/quote]

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