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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is dumb.  Just stop with gifts to each other or buy yourself what you want and wrap it. If your relationship is otherwise good, let it go [/quote]

The problem with our relationship is that he is constantly deciding what should and should not be important to me and throws a hissy fit when I stick up for myself. It’s so subtle that I can’t articulate it to other people, let alone a therapist, but it makes me feel invisible and like I don’t matter.

And I’m in the life phase where my child is too little to buy or make a present and my only living older relative is having me buy and wrap presents to be given on her behalf. I just want something tiny to open on Christmas. I know I’m a big baby for saying that but it’s true and I can’t say it anywhere else.[/quote]
Well the first paragraph is a huge issue. That’s the problem. 
But don’t get wrapped up in issues with gifts. I am you but down the road 15 years. I get it. But IMO gift exchanges with adults are dumb if it comes down to just exchanging Amazon links. I treat myself a little when I’m buying for everyone else and have made it about the joy of buying for my kids. Don’t believe the social media of most Dhs buying the perfect presents and getting that ahh moment…it’s not happening for 99.9%. 
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