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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm... kind of going to side the parents here. They don't have a legal right (they should have done some kind of life estate or trust situation), but they made it super clear what the plan was. "Always" have a room available, as long as they "need" it and the MIL clearly has health issues.

Deal was clear enough that OP saw it and wisely refused the offer. BIL and SIL took the deal and all that it entails.[/quote]

I agree. They sold it to family deeply, deeply discounted with the handshake agreement that they would still have a “claim” to stay there. These types of informal family relationships are fraught with danger when the unexpected happen, but both parties should adhere to the spirit of the agreement. If SIL and BIL couldn’t afford the house as full price, then they shouldn’t be stingy now.

HUGE fail of the MIL/FiL for not getting this agreement in writing as a part of the house sale, but that doesn’t give BIL/SIL the moral right to reneg on their informal agreement   [/quote]

I disagree, and this is why verbal agreements are so lousy, because they turn into a he said/she said situation. You don't know whether SIL was adequately briefed on the caretaking clause. I think SIL is the victim here. I have zero sympathy for that sneaky FIL, who in my view wasn't able to bamboozle OP, but did manage to bamboozle BIL because he's such a stupid pushover. FIL basically exploited two people who didn't realize what they were getting into.

Would any of you take that deal, where the house you've purchased for two thirds of the price isn't actually your house, FIL still occupies the best spots, and now you've got to take care of both FIL and MIL, for years?!?!

I would rather live in one-bedroom. I'm sure SIL would too.

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