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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She’s a train who will wreck in about 10 months.

[b]I’d bring up kids with him in front of her.

I’d also speak to him and ask him to break it off.[/b]

Your friend needs therapy, I’d try to get her to do this.

What happened with her dad?[/quote]

Whoa, no to both the things in bold. Way too intrusive. I am in favor of OP -- if OP and the woman really are good friends -- being honest with her and pointing out that she's being foolish and immature to wear a ring, hint around, etc. But if OP "speaks to him and asks him to break it off"? WTF? That's inserting oneself WAY too far into someone else's relationship. OP can be a frank and honest friend to the woman but should not get into their business by telling the guy to break up.[/quote]

GMAFB card on the table people we are not in middle school and we don’t need to pass notes and talk behind each others backs.

Grow up and grow some.[/quote]

Work on your reading comprehension. And learn to follow a thread better.

I said that OP should talk [b]to her friend[/b] and point out that the friend's hints etc. are stupid and immature. But OP has zero business outright "telling" the man to break it off, which is what another PP said the OP should do.

OP has standing to talk to her friend frankly about all this but has no standing at all to order the man to break up with the friend. That terrible advice is what I was responding to, which you'd have known if you'd actually read not only my post but also the specific post to which I was responding. Nowhere do I advocate for "passing notes and talking behind each others' backs."

In fact, it's the man in this couple who is talking behind the woman's back. Did you really read the original post of the thread? The guy actually talked casually to the OP about how the friend doesn't understand he doesn't want kids. He should be telling his GF/OP's friend that, not chit-chatting about it with OP. [/quote]

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