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"No! Don’t do this. Just a normal playdate." [/quote]

Well, unfortunately ever since the playground incident I mentioned the friend never comes home with DS after school anymore. So, I'm considering a playdate or trip that would be more special than usual. Could make a difference.

By the way, this friend seemed like such a nice boy back in September. I hope he isn't hanging out with rude kids or doing rude things just to fit in better at school. He seems like too nice a boy for things like that! And shouldn't a boy with a disability have more compassion? 
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No OP.
At this age he will not “have more compassion”—he will just be relieved that someone else is the “target” instead of him.
And sadly, OP, that’s your kid rn, so Tourette’s kid doesn’t want to be seen hanging out with your DS at the moment.
He is assessing the situation and realizing that hanging with the kids who do the “bullying” buys him an exemption from being bullied. Your DS was nice to him so he might not join in on tormenting your DS, but he isn’t going to stick his neck out either. Your DS senses this too. That’s why he is suddenly “shy” about asking him over. He knows, OP.
And you need to help him pivot away from this friend, empathize that it sucks—but friend is probably very insecure and reacting in self-preservation from
 that insecurity, and your DS is the collateral damage, unfortunately. Encourage
your DS to find other friends who are worthy of his time. [/quote]

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