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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am sorry OP.  Maybe trying taking each child and doing something that you think both the kid and your mom would like, like a musical or a sporting event or exhibit---just something that would be generational bridge building.  
[b]And---this might be hard to hear---but maybe your kids aren't as well behaved as you think and your mom really doesn't want to manage them individually or as a group.  [/b]
Do your siblings have kids and if so, how is she with those grandchildren?
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I posed this question to OP at 08:27. No response. Doubt you will get one either.  Therein may lie the problem ...[/quote]
I totally understand, but my mother is this way with the other grandchildren as well. And not only does she always comment on how well-behaved they are, she only watches them for two hours 3x per year, and we make sure we have dinner ready for her and they have a movie option just to make it as easy as possible. I get that people might be defensive, but our children don’t seem to be the issue, it’s more that she just doesn’t really seem interested in spending time with them. My MIL is the opposite, always asking to visit, bringing them presents, hugging them, and talking about missing them.

I do really think it is something about boomer grandmothers, and I really want to understand. Like maybe they are just tired of children or maybe they just prefer to be at home and with their friends, and that’s okay. I thought maybe this age cohort might be able to help me anonymously, so that I’m not misreading her.[/quote]

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