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I just turned sixty and my oldest child is 28. Honestly I feel like I need another ten years to myself before I could muster up a lot of enthusiasm for babysitting etc. I still work full time and I am tired! My youngest only finished college two years ago and I feel like I have been parenting for close to thirty years. I have been to enough violin recitals and soccer games and holiday concerts. I was active in scouts and pta and everything but don’t really have a lot of need to revisit it all again. The most involved grandparents I know in my circle are in their seventies and they had a long break where they didn’t parent or grandparent. I guess I am just not ready. Maybe that would change if it were less hypothetical it if it happened tomorrow I would have to work on not being resentful.[/quote]

This.  OP, where do you fall in birth order and how many siblings do you have?  My oldest is mid 20s and youngest just left for college.  I am enjoying my empty nest and would have difficulty working up enthusiasm to be an active grandmother, especially while I am still working.[/quote]
OP here - I’m the youngest, my mother hasn’t parented in 18 years. I could totally understand not wanting to babysit a lot, so we rarely (3x per year) ask. When we invite her over, she is a guest and not very interactive with the kids (they are in elementary). I’m honestly not sure what it is, I just assume she doesn’t care too much about them and seeing them on holidays is sufficient. This thread helps though, since I’m not a grandmother maybe I’ll understand better when I am at that place. [/quote]

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