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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Although it may be draining - spend time with them, later you wont regret it and may even wish you had done more.
Life is very very precious,  you don't get time back.[/quote]

PP, I think you are well intentioned with this, but I can assure you I will not be happier if I spend more time with my emotionally abusive mother.  Hard stop.[/quote]

Yeah, this is truly lousy advice unless maybe the elder is very pleasant. I made myself physically ill trying to do this. Best thing I ever did was distance. I made sure she had decent care. If anyone turns verbally and emotionally abusive with you I give you permission to protect yourself and step back. I don't care if the person is mentally ill, has a brain tumor, has dementia or is just a nasty person, you hire out care with the money they have and you protect your sanity. Most of the people I know who sucked it up with abuse to spend as much time as possible with crazy granny are dead now and they died pretty miserable deaths. They were no halo awarded to them after years of abuse. usually instead it was a diagnosis of some fatal condition so they didn't even get to finally enjoy life once the person was resting in peace. Take care of yourself now. [/quote]

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