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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If it weren't for my MIL being hell bent on living with us while I was already overwhelmed with little children and hubby struggling to building a career. I was fine with financially supporting them but being physically responsible for two old people with deteriorating health while they had other kids and a home with servants in their home country.[/quote]

Wow.  Your spouse’s parents (who I assume raised him and love him) are “old people with deteriorating health.”   You will send money their way but don’t want to deal with their physical presence.  Just wow.  Maybe you should find some balance in your life so you can be just a tiny bit more compassionate. [/quote]

DP It is attitudes like yours that continue to reinforce toxic expectations of women - that women should ignore their own needs to accommodate others. It's a symptom of internalized sexism.

The PP clearly states she was overwhelmed and her DH was struggling. Her ILs had acceptable options other than living with the PP. Their desires should not have trumped the PP's needs. PP was trying to set a healthy boundary. Her DH should have joined her (I'd be pissed at him) but I don't blame her for disliking her ILs.[/quote]

This^. Sacrificing yourself at the alter of someone's whims is lack of compassion but for yourself not for them. These relations are two way streets. [/quote]

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