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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why can’t your spouse tell your overweight teen to not have a second slice of cake?[/quote]

Because it does not stop the overeating.

Never use nots to get to a goal.

If he want him to “not” eat a 2nd piece it’s more effective to say, hey let’s go for a walk. That will get rid of bored eating or even hunger.

Also it seems the dad has some internal conflict about his own weight and he’s passively yet aggressively being toxic toward his kid that reminds him of himself.

I’d leave it up to the think parent to navigate this.[/quote]

The kid would 100% rather have the second piece of cake than go for a walk. That would be a no.  Regardless of Dad’s weight, he is absolutely right to put a limit on how much sugar is consumed.  I’m assuming dad is working on his weight and also not over indulging. [/quote]

I would be pretty surprised if this dad is actually working on his weight in any truly meaningful way. If he was, he would know better than to shame his kid about this.

My husband and I are both overweight. We work on it, but the reality is we are only making changes around the margins given both genetics and the terrible food environments we both grew up in. This has included the new weight loss drugs that in my case only led to losing 5 pounds. But we have worked really, really hard not to talk about weight in front of our kid. We don’t shame her, etc. At this point, she isn’t overweight at all (neither was I until my late 20s when a bunch of autoimmune stuff hit).

I’m the earlier poster who said that I will tell my kid not to eat sweets until she has had a healthy dinner and then we can assess what to do. But we are not banning all sweets, etc. And we never talk about it in terms of weight. We talk about some foods being healthier than others and let’s get all the vitamins we need, etc before we have the zucchini bread she made (which is loaded with sugar — although we use natural applesauce for part of it).[/quote]

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