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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I’ve been living this for a couple of years and I can empathize.

It’s good that you recognize it now. Take care of yourself, maintain your own space, and let your parents handle as much as they can. Recognize that you are in good company. Don’t let them hurt you if they get into an episode. Talk to them like young children. You can check in over the phone and at brief times weekly or biweekly or monthly and that’s plenty.

You’ll get used to it and over time it won’t be so intolerable.[/quote]

Yeah it’s really important to maintain some emotional boundaries. For a long time I would talk to my mom and it was like her emotions were my emotions. If she was anxious and spiraling, depressed, then I was anxious and depressed. My parents are mid 80s and may potentially live another ten years and I just realized I can’t be anxious and depressed for the next ten years. I can be sympathetic but have to work really hard to not get sucked into the drama, the conflict. They were always difficult people and I did a good job of being polite, cordial but not close to them. The hardest thing about this stage is having to spend more time with them, to absorb the cruelty and abuse of an unfiltered old persons thoughts and the emotions.[/quote]

How were you able to do this?[/quote]

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