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[quote=Anonymous]Everyone is assuming that OP’s kid(s) are the ones that are hitting, but I didn’t see that stated in their first post, so it could either be their kids or the only child cousin. In either case, I agree with PP that the expectation for cousins to be kind to each other is higher than for other situations. Ideally, an older cousin is there to model kind behavior. If not, I would intervene early and often to send the message that cousins should be extra considerate of each other. I come from a culture that really stresses birth order, so the expectation of an older cousin to take care of a younger one is very explicit. As is the expectation of a younger cousin to respect an older cousin, even if the age difference is months, days or minutes. So our kids know their “place” among all the cousins, and luckily the older ones are very kind and the younger ones follow suit.

In order to soothe tensions, if I was the parent to the taker, the hitter, or the instigator, I would put in more time watching the kids and intervening, if only to make the short time spent together more pleasant and incident free. If that is not you, and the parent of the instigator doesn’t intervene, I think you have to limit the playtime when it gets intense and give your kid a “safe space”, whether it’s to read/look at books in a quiet space or sitting with you. [/quote]

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