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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter is at a girls' school and I would say it was great until about 10th grade.  Then I'd say that she and almost all her friends started wishing they were at a coed school. 
-they missed boys.  Not only as romantic interests but as friends and classmates. 
-girls get really intense and competitive.  It's a lot to go through junior year, college admissions, etc with all girls.  Boys are just more chill (in general--i have two of both).  the girls school environment when all the girls are stressed out can get toxic fast.

In retrospect maybe we would have chosen a woman's college instead.  We have a second daughter who is at the girls school and are likely moving her for high school to a coed environment. [/quote]

I never found my all girls HS to be competitive, intense, etc. Which doesn't mean your kids didn't experience that!

It depends entirely on the individual, her social crowd, and the school. It's possible there were girls at my school who found it intense at the same time my friends and I found it supportive. 
[b]But I really dislike the generalizations about how girls "are" or that all-girls environments inevitably get toxic[/b]. [/quote]

yeah, i would have said that too until i saw it play out.  Up until 11th grade I was like "hey, that toxic thing is just a annoying stereotype."

It's both because the girls get competitive and because they almost all really have their sh$%t together and school won't give everyone As and not everyone gets into the same colleges, etc.  So it leads to a lot of competitive stuff.  My son is at an all-boys school and in comparison the boys are just far more laid back.  At the boys school you have some academic superstars and some strivers and this and that but they are balanced out by really chill boys as well. 
At the girls school they are all intense.  It's been surprisingly unpleasant for my daughter and almost all of her friends (per their moms).  It's just a LOT of stress and very little reprieve from it. 
Your mileage may certainly vary--by school, by grade, by friend group.  I will say that my daughter is generally super chill but she really feels that she can't escape from those who aren't.
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