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[quote=Anonymous]I had a friend group in college, and one woman (the "leader") was my best friend for all of those years. Then, the summer after graduation, I called her out on some mean and hurtful behavior and she stopped talking to me. And somehow got our whole group to stop talking to me too. There were signs; I just ignored them because, of course she would never do that to me, her best friend. I was wrong.

Afterward, I did fall into a depression, because I'd lost most of my friends...these were people I cared about and trusted, and they all dropped me because I didn't want to be treated like crap. I don't care as much about the best friend-whatever-but I do think about the other women sometimes. Why did they believe and follow her? I thought they cared about me too? What do they tell themselves now, years later, to justify Best Friend treating me like crap and them saying and doing nothing? It used to bother me a lot, but not anymore, especially now that I have friends who are lovely and caring and supportive.

But OP, I would definitely look at your role in this and think about the type of person you want to be moving forward. You don't have to do what the group does. Who says you can't reach out to Kelly and start your own hobby group?[/quote]

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