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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Interesting responses. I do hear what people are saying about not endorsing some of this bad behavior by staying in the group. I think I mentioned that there has been some distance between my side of the group and others as a result of this, and I guess part of why it's been weighing on me is that I can feel that distance closing again and I am unsure how I feel about it.

For what it's worth, I don't personally think Kelly overreacted to what happened. I think it was really sad when she left the group. But again, I didn't know her very well and heard about all of this second hand. And now she is not even talking to my two friends who she used to be close to (because they are still involved in this hobby and with these people and she has told them that it's too painful for her to spend time with them).

The whole situation makes me very sad when I think about it but also I'm pretty good at not thinking about it when I'm spending time with others from the group. [b]I think it would be hard to keep doing my hobby without maintaining friendships there too, and I can't imagine not doing it any more. [/b]

I wish there was a way to make the situation right, somehow, but now too much time has passed.[/quote]

The bolded is what it all comes down to.  You care more about this hobby and your ability to be part of the group than how badly some members of the group treated Kelly.  You're not alone in that, of course, but don't kid yourself that it sucks.  I mean, Kelly didn't really have a choice about continuing to do the hobby, did she?

It may not make the situation right, but you might think long and hard about why appallingly sh*tty treatment of another person isn't a deal-breaker for you when it comes to friendships.[/quote]

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