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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your 3rd grader is already acting DC snooty, it's time for a sit down life lesson talk. I have a feeling Mom and or Dad are embarrassed about where they live and daughter either heard it or Mom/Dad is transferring those inferior feelings. Young kids rarely care about outward appearances but grownups do.

My kids went to school with a lot of kids that lived in apartments their whole lives. Nobody cared.

I always told my kids and everyone else, it doesn't matter where you come from, it matters where you're going.  [/quote]

Sadly this has never been the case. I grew up in a small bungalow in Atlanta and went to a private school. I had over for a playdate in second the next day someone came up to me and asked me why I didn’t have a TV. I said it was in my parent’s room. Then they said my “friend” had also told them I had a small house. Kids are very aware of this at a young age and can be quite mean about it. Our current nanny has told us stories of how the former family she worked for (who had a way bigger house than us) sent their kids to private and in K kids would come over and say “your house is small” or “you don’t have a playroom!”

OP- Your daughter is aware of status and wealth and I would try to talk through this with her but also understand her concern may be in response to a prior experience. FWIW growing up much less wealthy than my peers and dealing with this was hard. Even though I know live in a $2 million house outside of NYC because the area is so expensive it’s not big and now my kids are living the same situation that I did. I remind them that we have a great house that is pretty great even if it’s not an 8,000 sqft mansion with a pool like many of their classmates.[/quote]

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