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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m in my late thirties, but I have to share, because my divorce was so harrowing and my circumstances so dire for YEARS, and now my life is unimaginably good.  (I used to post here prolifically about this saga.)

In 2016, at not even three months pregnant, I learned that my husband had been cheated on.  I did not want to abort so I stuck around until the baby was born.  I was living overseas and was incredibly isolated, depressed, and generally miserable (I already had a toddler).

Fast forward to when the baby was six months: a crew of friends essentially helped me flee the country.  (I like to tell people I came to the US with two suitcases and a credit card - it’s true!).  Husband immediately drained our shared account. I started working full-time right away, paying more than I was making in wages.  I used the cash advance from the CC to get an apartment and a crappy used car.

I’m hopeful you’re financially set, but I was not, and it was AWFUL.  I was on welfare, food stamps, etc.  luckily the kids were still on their dads health insurance.  But otherwise life was a grind.

The divorce was brutal, and the very isolated court system was most certainly corrupt.  I was humiliated in court when my ex husband claimed our marriage was a farce and he never really “meant” to marry me (?).  I was compelled to give him custody of the kids, which is the greatest pain of my life and which is still resolving itself.

I’ll fast forward to now, over six years later: I got an advanced degree, started my professional career, got remarried, bought a home, and have a standard of living much greater than I’ve ever had before. Ex-husband and I are finally on friendly terms, and are relocating to the same city next year so we can share custody.  Thank God!

Note that this process was delayed and compounded by the pandemic.  Hell on hell.

I cannot overstate how difficult it was, but I ALSO cannot overstate the freedom and peace on the other side of this.  You will get through this better than ever.  Take extremely good care of yourself and surround yourself with supportive, loving people.  Bless you OP.[/quote]

You’re amazing. Cheering for you![/quote]

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