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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have the two of you discussed how you want to label yourselves? If not, I can understand why he didn’t want to be presumptuous and call you his GF. Use your words and talk to him.[/quote]

[b]We have discussed it before and didn’t see eye to eye. He thinks boyfriend/girlfriend is some HUGE title. [/b]He see it the way I see being engaged. The day to day of our relationship is very good. We act like a couple and as far as I can tell (and from his words) he isn’t seeing anyone else. I guess I just have to deal with this “friend” thing. But for me it’s annoying. Titles are a form of respect in my eyes. An even though our relationship emotionally progresses there is a part of me that has a hard time taking him seriously as a potential partner because he keeps calling me his friend.[/quote]

You buried the lede!

Ok so he is a commitmentphobe. Is he divorced? What trauma did he go through? I’m with you that girlfriend is not a big title and friend is unnecessarily ambiguous, and a less PTSD-ed man would just call you whatever you wanted to be called and be done with it. The fact that he is thinking about this a lot is a sign he’s not a sociopath, who would make the commitment but then behave however he liked. If you love him, give him A LOT of space so he feels comfortable about you and like he’s not being forced or tricked into being your boyfriend. In the meantime, hopefully he will work on himself or his PTSD DEFCON level will come down naturally over time.[/quote]

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