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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have the two of you discussed how you want to label yourselves? If not, I can understand why he didn’t want to be presumptuous and call you his GF. Use your words and talk to him.[/quote]

We have discussed it before and didn’t see eye to eye. He thinks boyfriend/girlfriend is some HUGE title. He see it the way I see being engaged. The day to day of our relationship is very good. We act like a couple and as far as I can tell (and from his words) he isn’t seeing anyone else. I guess I just have to deal with this “friend” thing. But for me it’s annoying. Titles are a form of respect in my eyes. An even though our relationship emotionally progresses there is a part of me that has a hard time taking him seriously as a potential partner because he keeps calling me his friend.[/quote]

I’d draw it out on paper. Make a horizontal line. Write “married” at the right end. Write “strangers” at the other end. Start filling it in. You could use sticky notes to move them. Maybe seeing it visually would help him better understand where you’re coming from and to see that the term girlfriend/boyfriend is not the same as engaged. For me “living together” would be closer to “engaged” than “boyfriend/girlfriend.”[/quote]

Thanks, this is an interesting suggestion. For him gf/bf indicates a promise to be on the path of life partnership (living together etc). I would ultimately like a life partner but I do not know him well enough to say I want that with him. But I’m not closed off to having it with him either.  I’m determining what I’d like, but in the meantime I enjoy his company and don’t wish to explore other options. I also enjoy being social with him. So in my mind that makes him my boyfriend.[/quote]

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