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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A women I am friendly with tried to include me in her group. She has invited me to do things with them on several occasions. 
Unfortunately the “leader” of the group made it clear that she doesn’t want me around.  Each time we meet she will act like she can’t remember anything about me. She repeatedly asks me how old my kid is (my kid and her kid are in the same grade at the same school).  She will invite the others to lunch in front of me etc…. Her behavior makes things very awkward for all of us. 
The other women think she’s absolutely amazing. One women told me that they are “the best family”. 
I’m so hurt and lonely. I feel like I’m back in 7th grade.  I’m a 44yo female with two kids but no friends. How do I get past this. [/quote]

[b]Clearly she feels threatened by you. You must be smarter or prettier or richer than her. [/b]Its on her, not you. Don't engage with the group, just with the one woman who is your friend. Life is too damn short! [/quote]

What? There is literally nothing to suggest this at all. It's just as likely that OP said something offensive and doesn't know it and this "leader" of the group doesn't want her around but isn't going to go about it in a direct way. [/quote]

Unless OP said something racist or cruel, this is still a massive overreaction to any "offensive" comment. Everyone puts their foot in their mouth sometimes. Using that as an excuse to engage in an ongoing campaign of belittling or excluding someone is deeply childish.

Agree it comes from a place of insecurity. Could be as PP said, that she feels specifically threatened by OP. But could also be as you said, that OP said something insensitive or offensive, and this person is so thin-skinned that it made her *big mad*. These are actually the same.

A secure person does not randomly form strong negative feelings about someone they just met, even if they made a bad first impression. I meet people all the time who rub me the wrong way. I just steer clear of them the next time, or make polite conversation. Sometimes they win me over and I discover my first impression was wrong. Sometimes it's not and we go our separate ways. But I don't do stuff like what OP describes this woman doing. Because it's too much work, and I'm not a bitter cow.[/quote]

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