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Now that my son has turned 18 he wants to "modify" some rules, such as bedtime, curfues, electronic usage, chores and parental "guidance.

Rules as of now:

Bedtime: 10:30pm
Wake up: 7am. Be on time to school. He drives.
Curfue: 12am Friday and Saturday only. 1am if it's a special event.
Electronic usage: unlimited but electronics off at 10pm. Phone stays in the kitchen.
Chores: Room tidy, trash out, feed/walk the dog after school.

He basically wants complete independence with no rules... at all. He says we're too strict. Grades are good but could be better. Heading for college next year.

Personality: sweet and respectful but so forgetful and always distracted (mostly because he's glued to the phone).

Did you continue the rules for your 18 year old but still high schooler? or Did you completely go Laissez-faire style once they turned 18?
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Went through this last year. Bedtime went away Jr year b/c of homework, kid became responsible for going to bed and getting up on time. We also stopped requiring him to charge his phone in the kitchen overnight. There was an issue with him being chronically late to school and when he ended up in front of the Assistant Principal and the consequences were laid out, low and behold he got to school on time. It was hard to watch him be chronically tired, but he had to figure it out b/c now he's in a college dorm on his own.

Curfew was an issue. We went to a flexible curfew with expectations around communication, but the communication rarely happened as we requested so that was a pain point up until when he left for college.

We also required him to get a job, which I highly recommend especially if ECs/sports have dropped off.

IMO chores are unrelated to being 18, they are simply a part of life.

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