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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We’ve been married for 11 years and I’m the one to make all the plans with my MIL: when she wants to come visit, when we go there, etc. She’s 2 hours away and we see her every few months.

But I’m ready to pass the torch to my husband…but I worry we’ll never see her again. She won’t suggest an idea to meet…it’s usually me making the plans. Husband literally along for the ride.

I’m just ready to pass with on…get it out of my headspace. But then will my headspace be filled with “why isn’t he arranging a meet up?”[/quote]

My husband is “in charge of it” but he doesn’t communicate much to me or his parents. So he’ll say come for thanksgiving, they’ll arrange to come for a week, no one talks or plans anything, they show up and it’s awkward. I used to try to lead a few conversations at dinner but that got exhausting so now we all sit in silence. Even the kids find it odd, but it seems to be their normal so for one week I’ll do it.

The first couple times I planned day trips and events but no one said Thanks or seemed to care or debrief the day in Annapolis or the Moroccan restaurant. So I stopped doing that too.

If they get the same amount of happiness and utility out of state Ng bin and making lentil stew, as going around wash dC, fine with me. For that one week. [/quote]

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