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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is she using a cycle tracking app, and testing for her LH peak, cervical mucus, possibly basal temperature? The first two used in tandem worked well for me when conceiving #2 (without the app, because back then there weren't any, but with an app it's even easier). Some examples of Apps: Premom, Proov, Flo. I'm sure there are others. 
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OP here: She uses an app to track her cycles, not sure which one though. I'll suggest testing for the LH peak, and basal temperature.

I guess i'm looking for advice on how to approach this from an emotional standpoint rather than a practical one. I know my wife, and I can throw all the science and data about fertility at her, and she'll still be upset that we're not able to concieve as quickly as before. [/quote]

New poster here and I think you're missing that if she tracks her ovulation with test strips and other methods (cervical mucous, basal temperature), she will have a MUCH better chance of conceiving. Tracking all of it takes a good amount of attention, and she'll be occupied.
You need to read up on it, sit down with her, and be a more involved father, OP. Maybe part of her stress is that she feels all the burden is on her. If you show her you've read up on all the new ways to help conception, maybe she'll be less worried.

Also, show her all the data that stress reduces fertility. She has to relax if she wants that baby ;-)

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Wow, I mean, you're not WRONG, but OP is asking for how to emotionally support his wife who is emotionally struggling. Your response is essentially to tell her that the stress she cannot control is what is responsible for not being pregnant, and also to tell OP, who came to this usually supportive board seeking support, that he needs to be a better father and partner?

If someone had approached me that way when I was struggling to conceive my second child, I would've been crushed and that person would no longer be a friend.[/quote]

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