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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DW and I are TTC for kid #2. With our first child, she got pregnant the second month of trying. We’ve now been trying for three months, and no pregnancy. She’s been getting very frustrated and anxious about how it’s been going, and while I keep reminding her that[b] it often takes at least 6 months at her age (34)[/b], she’s very worried that it will never happen. She’s been saying things like “should we see a fertility specialist now?” “Should we start looking into adoption agencies?” “What if I can never get pregnant?”

I’m definitely a bit frustrated as well, but I figured that it wouldn’t be quite as easy this time around as the first. I see her starting to spiral now, and I worry that if another month or two goes by and she’s still not pregnant, she’ll go into a darker place. Any tips for how to manage this? [/quote]

The advice is to wait 6 months and then get a workup.  I'd suggest that you guys schedule a meeting with a fertility specialist at the 6 month mark, and cancel it if you get pregnant before then.  But from a woman struggling to TTC #2 right now, DH had the same attitude (you're getting older, maybe if you lost some weight, basically it's definitely the wife's fault) and when we went to the fertility specialist we learned he had extremely low sperm count.  So maybe try some humble pie before deciding her age is the determining factor, bud.[/quote]

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