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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm seeking advice on navigating the relationship between my child and my in-laws, who express bigoted views. And for clarifies sake, they are outwardly and loudly racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic and xenophobic.  They make it clear they believe that those who do not look like them or think like them are inferior.

I don’t want to get between my spouses relationship with their parents, but I'm concerned about the impact of these views on our child. How can I handle this situation to ensure my child isn't exposed to these harmful beliefs without damaging the family dynamic?  Should I “ban” my child from being around my in-laws? [/quote]

Ahem.  Op, don't you also believe that your in laws are inferior  to you because they don't think like you?

You can't have that much confidence in what you believe (you haven't said anything specific) if you think bunch of bigots will be so persuasive to your children.

Why is that?  Isn't the rightness of your viewpoints and the wrongness of the inlaws blindingly obvious even to a child?  If not, then why not?[/quote]

WTF?!?!

In-laws don't "think like her" because they are bigots.   The in-laws views are wrong, in no world are they correct thinking.   And kids are kids.  They are sponges, especially when young.  Some of us do not want to expose our kids to "family who hold such dispicable views" and choose to express them routinely.  Actions speak a lot louder than words, so as a parent, I don't choose to spend much time if any with people who I'm aware are bigots and who openly express these views. Sure I can tell my kids "grandma is a bigot and what she is saying is wrong and we don't think like that or talk like that". Or I can make bolder statement and when grandma says something, tell grandma "please don't be a bigot around my family.  If you choose to act/say that again we will be leaving and you won't be seeing our kid(s)."

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