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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just had a break up due to logistics with someone I had the most explosive chemistry with.  Not to be explicit because obviously the thread needs to be SFW, but I've never had the kind of connection or passion in the bedroom with anyone like this.  Breaking up has been shockingly hard, and I didnt expect to be hit so hard with the loss.  Has anyone else experienced this kind of break up and if so, how do you move on and forget about it?[/quote]

I’ll be honest with you, I still think of my greatest lover 33 years after our untimely breakup.

The chemistry was phenomenal which is why logic dictates that it was a connection very much colored by lust, and so over the years I have assessed in the context of other relationship experiences and I realized rationally that the emotional and intellectual connection was very likely not there as much as I like to imagine because great sex really, really blinds you to red flags. It is important to recognize that on some level great sex is purely biological, and as we all know as a matter of biology, even great sex wanes a lot after children and other pressures of life, so it cannot be the primary basis of a lasting relationship.

It’s just very hard to ever forget that kind of rush of hormones that happens when you find a really great sex partner - the human brain is hardwired for wanting that and our culture conditions us from early childhood to consider that kind of passionate sexual attraction as synonymous with LOVE.

I would say cherish the memories - use them for masturbation and in future couplings where you need to imagine somebody else. But don’t kid yourself that it was meant to be. It’s just really hot sex and could have easily blown up in your face into the worst relationship you ever experienced. Who knows?[/quote]

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