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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"It also hurts to be brave enough to open up about your family and realize that many people's lives are too charmed for them to understand."

PP, thank you so much for writing this.  I had this experience in the past year with two people, both of whom I thought were close friends.  They're great people, but their lives are such that they fundamentally cannot understand my family's level of dysfunction.  When I realized that, I was crushed.  It still feels so achingly lonely when I think about it.

I do have friends who get that aspect of my life and for them, I am profoundly grateful.  Even though their families as a whole can't provide the closeness I would love for my family (DH and kids), that they understand, profoundly, what it's like keeps me going.  It's especially hard in some ways because my family is local; people assume they're helpful when they hear that.  [/quote]

So much this. In a similar boat (more my family than DH's, although he has to keep his at arms length in many ways). My oldest, dearest friend comes from a warm, close family and I hid my situation from her for so long, but when it finally came out she worked hard to understand and now I think gets it, as does her family. This is rare and precious, but it takes the risk of opening up and of finding out whether someone is or isn't capable of it. It's still hard and I have moments of wondering whether I'm the third wheel, but I am learning to trust that she knows and welcomes that she is my 'family'. [/quote]

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