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Reply to "Elders sometimes become abusive toward those they were closest to, so please don't insert yourself"
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[quote=Anonymous]Another big problem is when people try to focus on empathy to excuse many years of abuse. Too often it's not the disease causing the abuse, just the disease causing a worsening of abusive behavior and abusers love to target those of us with empathy. We spend years trying to understand their perspective and illness and making excuses. Our heartstrings have been tugged at so much they broke from the abuse. Those who want to insert themselves should instead simply insert themselves more with the abusive elder. Spent lots of time with the person. Invite them over. Often abusers, even those in the early stages of dementia can still turn it on for others. You fulfill your need to help and they get some social interaction. Just stay out of the dynamics that caused an adult child/sibling/niece or nephew to endure years of abuse and get years of therapy before they decided I cannot take another second of abuse.[/quote]
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