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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,  I think you are right to suggest that they start making arrangements etc.  I’ve seen my elderly neighbors and my aunt/uncle all refuse to deal with things and then suddenly things go south really quickly and the adult kids are left with so much to take care of.  In both these cases they couldn’t get a place for them right away as the waiting lists were too long and some places only accepted elderly before they had really bad health conditions.  For those who said it’s  it your concern is wrong.  Good luck![/quote]

This would be great advice if it were possible to control others. Alas…

I don’t think we are saying it is wrong. We are saying it is likely futile. So don’t spend a lot of energy worrying about it. It does you no good with people that aren’t going to plan. This isn’t the family she grew up in and it sounds like her husband isn’t interested in pushing this.[/quote][/quote]

Fully agree that the time you spend worrying about this is wasted time. You can’t control their actions.

Maybe they will be fine for another decade and pass peacefully in the same night in their sleep. Maybe the crisis will hit tomorrow. Either way, there is nothing you do.[/quote]

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